The Importance of Setting Boundaries

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There will come a time in your life when you start to realize the old ways are no longer working for you.

The old you is dying.

The way you used to go about living. Your routine. Your interactions. Your habits. All of them are just . . . off. And you can’t quite fix one thing without it affecting all the others. Your life is in upheaval, and it seems like everything has got to shift. But you don’t know where to begin.

And what’s even more painful — the old you is dying, and the new you hasn’t been fully formed. So you feel stuck at the end of one way of being that no longer suits you, but the next form hasn’t fully crystallized yet.

It is in this “in-between” space that we learn the most about ourselves.

We are left to dig deep inside and seek the truth of ourselves.

It sounds dark — this is actually a good thing, even though it can feel like our world is falling apart.

Once you start to realize that you can no longer say “yes” to certain things you’ve said yes to in the past, you start to realize just how much you’ve compromised yourself.

And the thing is, people who were used to you having little to no boundaries will start to be taken aback. They won’t know how to interact with you because they were used to you not having a clear sense of self. They’re the ones who benefited from all of your people-pleasing and lack of boundaries. While this can seem confusing at first, because it’s new to you, you have to keep doing it. Everything in you will keep fighting for you to react in the old ways — to give in to others, to put others’ needs before your own, to never speak your opinion, to always stay hidden, etc. But you have to break this pattern, and it takes work. It takes cultivation over a long period of time and a continuous remembrance of being true to yourself, your vision, and your feelings.. Setting boundaries is how you take your power back.

It’s not selfish.

It’s not silly.

And it needs to be talked about.

Most of the people in this world aren’t even considering boundaries or honoring their own needs. By taking a deeper look at your own boundaries, you’re one step closer to fully embodying and honoring yourself and your true needs.

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