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Stop Ignoring Your Pain
We all have various ways of trying to fill the hole in our heart. What’s misleading is that some of these things are condoned by society as “good things” — such as going back to school, getting a job with more responsibility, volunteering your time, entering a new relationship, etc. While none of these things is “bad” on its own, we have to examine our motives underneath doing any activity. Ultimately, it is not that an activity is inherently right or wrong—what matters is our intention behind it. We can make excuses for ourselves and go into “achievement mode” in order to not feel our feelings.
We do not want to face ourselves or our pain. We are conditioned to seek comfort. When we feel uncomfortable, we immediately seeks ways to get ourselves out of that. Learning how to sit with feelings is probably one of the most important things we can all learn to do. It’s not something we’re necessarily taught, but it should be.
Emotional pain is the worst. There is nothing more draining and depressing than feeling a storm of emotions raging inside of you, while you’re not entirely sure “why” it’s happening. Most often the roots of such pain are in the past, and it is now coming up to be looked at. Sometimes the clarity doesn’t come until later.
How do you sit with your feelings? It might feel like you’re repressing your feelings at first. If you’re not used…
