All the spiritual traditions say it: surrender. Give up control. Give up trying to control others. For trauma survivors, this is the core of the “serenity prayer.” The idea is that you’re supposed to give up control and then feel a sense of release/relief from whatever issue you’re clinging to. …

We’ve been conditioned to look externally at people, places, and things as our concrete reality. Never once questioning it. Never thinking that what could be appearing “out there” is somehow connected to what’s going on inside of us. When we learn to look at life around us like a magnifying…

Do you ever feel stuck? Like you’re just sitting in the same place and can’t seem to get motivated? If you do, you might need to make a shift. We are energetic beings. We think of ourselves (and reality) as this solid, material thing, when really — we are so…

If you’ve been raised in any sort of dysfunctional family, you might have trouble identifying your true self. You’ve likely hid behind masks and armor you’ve developed to protect yourself from whatever form of neglect or abuse you’ve endured. You might have this gnawing, gripping pain from the inside —…

Nobody talks about the pain of childhood abandonment. When someone mentions “abuse”, we almost always instantly think of physical abuse. What about the invisible abuse? Why doesn’t anyone talk about the rupture that occurs when the child’s parents are absent and neglectful? Effects of childhood abandonment: -A sense of unease…

Do not take dictation from the world. Do not take advice from the small-minded. Be careful of whom you are seeking advice from. If someone hasn’t gone where you’ve wanted to go, and beyond, why listen to him/her? Let he/she keep his/her own limiting beliefs while you go fly and…

Do you want what you want? Or is it what you think you should want? Often times we let society dictate where we should be in our lives by a certain age. We place artificial time stamps on the trajectory of our lives so that we can measure if we’re…

You know something is wrong. Even though you keep telling yourself that everything is fine. Thinking you’re the problem, when it’s actually your family’s dysfunctional problem that nobody dealt with. You can feel it in your bones. It’s the reason your stomach hurts all the time—even though you do all…